You're going to regret this one day.
Keeping myself sane in a world of university, working, and the men and women that fill my days. (The shortness of life) de brevitate vitae, I want as much as I can get.
“How far have you walked for men who’ve never held your feet in their laps? How often have you bartered with bone, only to sell yourself short? Why do you find the unavailable so alluring? Where did it begin? What went wrong? And who made you feel so worthless? If they wanted you, wouldn’t they have chosen you? All this time, you were begging for love silently, thinking they couldn’t hear you, but they smelt it on you, you must have known that they could taste the desperation on your skin? And what about the others that would do anything for you, why did you make them love you until you could not stand it? How are you both of these women, both flighty and needful? Where did you learn this, to want what does not want you? Where did you learn this, to leave those that want to stay?”
—  Warsan Shire
How far have you walked for men who’ve never held your feet in their laps?
How often have you bartered with bone, only to sell yourself short?
Why do you find the unavailable so alluring?
Where did it begin? What went wrong? And who made you feel so worthless?
If they wanted you, wouldn’t they have chosen you?
All this time, you were begging for love silently, thinking they couldn’t hear you, but they smelt it on you, you must have known that they could taste the desperation on your skin?
And what about the others that would do anything for you, why did you make them love you until you could not stand it?
How are you both of these women, both flighty and needful?
Where did you learn this, to want what does not want you?
Where did you learn this, to leave those that want to stay?

—  Warsan Shire

Travelers Words of Wisdom

"Currently in Bangkok, enjoying the last day of my SE Asia adventure, sitting in a pool of sweat, drinking a delicious iced coffee that I pray won’t give me a dairy migraine, admiring my tanned bug bitten legs that I freshly shaved this morning in a heated shower ( what a luxury!), writing about what I’m taking away from this trip and contemplating going into the tattoo shop across the street from me. haha So here we go! Some grand, some silly, some that may only mean something to me things that I’m taking away from this trip.

1. Human beings are adaptable. Throw us in any place or situation and with a little patience we will succeed. Survivors! ( insert the chipmunks rendition of survivor from their latest film, that I thoroughly enjoyed while on a bus in Vietnam…ha, you’re welcome. http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=uUlNQDAaDSc )

2. I have an excellent sense of direction. I’ll give credit for my directional spidey sense to traveling with Amber Nicholson …seriously if she goes one way make sure to go exactly the opposite direction. Regardless, if we were to get thrown off a plane in the middle of no where, I’d get us somewhere in no time!

3. Being far away reminded me how freaking amazing the people in my life are. Inspiring, beautiful, supportive. Hats off to all of you. I love you all. I was talking with a friend recently about what you would do if you had 6 weeks to live. We decided that I was living how I would if I was dying. I am, but if my family and friends couldn’t be with me I would rather be a bum back in Canada!

4. You can use any action in your life as a way to run away from yourself or a way to be with yourself. On this trip, travel has been a way for me to truly feel alive, to be free and live life however I want, but at times it also became a way to distract myself from certain things I was feeling. We have no choice of what will happen to us, but we can choose how to feel and deal with it and that is really what it’s all about ( you put your left foot in, you put your left foot out, you put your left foot in and you shake it all about :)).

5. Sticking to the theme of freedom and life choices, here is a cheeseball of a lesson we hear every damn day- FOLLOW YOUR HEART. Your bliss, your freedom, your happiness, your gut!( men((and some woman)), penis doesn’t count in this context). I had a grand travel plan mapped out but the further I went along it the unhappier I was becoming. I had no idea why at the time, but all I wanted to do was go back to a little beach I had spent just a few days at. It took having a dream where I wrote myself a letter with gold sparkly marker ending in,” Im going to FOLLOW MY BLISS”, to muster up the courage to forget about my plans. Im so glad I did because the people, experiences and things I’m taking away from that beach have had the greatest effect on my being and I feel like I’m the closest I’ve ever been to understanding who I am. So follow your heart, even if it makes no sense at that moment, I promise with time, the reasons for your heart longings will be revealed.

6. I kept this quote as my phone wallpaper for the majority of my trip, ” Your task is not to seek for love, but to merely seek and find all the barriers within yourself you’ve created against it.”-Rumi. I’ve been labeled and would label myself as a hopeless romantic. We label ourselves in every way because it allows us to understand and explain ourselves. These explanations of our selves are usually not what’s truly going on within. For me, my truth as a hopeless romantic is actually someone who longs so deeply to be loved and love, but has a closed off heart to those possibilities from a past of blindingly putting herself in poor relationship situations, over and over. People check in! If you keep getting screwed over there is definitely a reason for it. Become aware and discover what’s really going on inside of you instead of settling for the labels bestowed upon you. Do it now because you never know what or who is right around the corner( damnit, there goes the hopeless romantic…sigh ♥).

7. While traveling, men get skinny and woman get fat! It’s the exact opposite of what I thought but it’s oh so worth it. I’m just going to avoid getting into my skinny jeans for two weeks and it’ll be as if nothing happened!…must break fried rice habit…is there a rehab for that¿

8. Time does not exist. It’s something we create. So let go of it but respect it by being grateful for every moment. Don’t let it control you. A 15 hr bus ride can either be a breeze of ease or a never ending ride of torture and that all depends on what you let the experience be for you. Living free of a timeline diminishes this intense pressure we have created in our society. When I was finally able to let go of the pressure to always be doing something, the space around me and my world opened up. I felt as if I could literally pull everything that I was holding on to in my body out, examine it, and then let it float away on the sea breeze…along with my cellulite….if only it was simple as that!

9. I saw some beautiful and breathtaking landscapes but it was the people I met that really blew me away. On this trip I watched, “Into The Wild”, at Banana Bar on Koh Phi Phi ( yeah man totally groovy rad). The film ends with, ” Happiness is only real when shared”. I had some amazing times while traveling alone and I needed it, but my favourite memories all have a friend or friends by my side. So put yourself out there! If you see someone playing frisbee by themselves get your ass up and offer to play!

10. Listen to people! I’ve met an almost nanny to Blue Ivy, PGA golf pros, to people that have been working since they were children for a dollar a day. It is all equally inspiring and no matter what someone will have a story you will connect with.

11. Don’t wait for others. It’s just an excuse or I used it as an excuse for my entire 20’s so far. Get out there and do it now. Whatever that thing is. There is so much I didn’t do or jump on because I was waiting for someone. I’ve learned that if that person doesn’t have their shit together now, they most likely never will. I thought waiting was a form of sacrifice to let that person know I would do anything for them, but I refuse to believe that anymore. So if you aren’t on my bandwagon get the fuck out of the way! Yeehaw!

12. My new found key to instant happiness- Make decisions based on what you know and will make you happy RIGHT NOW, and not by possibilities of things that could happen in future. Because Hey Baby, nothing matters if you aren’t happy!

I’ll see you all soon! Peace, light, and a whole lotta love! Xo”

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Human beings are adaptable. You can use any action in your life as a way to run away from yourself or a way to be with yourself. FOLLOW YOUR HEART. Time does not exist. ‘Happiness is only real when shared’. Don’t wait for others - if that person doesn’t have their shit together now, they most likely never will. Make decisions based on what you know and will make you happy RIGHT NOW, and not by possibilities of things that could happen in future. Because Hey Baby, nothing matters if you aren’t happy!

I don’t want to forget. I don’t want to forget the way I felt. Impassioned about myself and the way you lit me uplike no one else ever has. I don’t want to forget, but the warmth that you gave me slips up my spine to the back of my mind And is looking for a dark place to rest. This was such a great place. I don’t want to forget you.

I don’t want to forget.
I don’t want to forget the way I felt.
Impassioned about myself and the way you lit me up
like no one else ever has.
I don’t want to forget, but the warmth that you gave me
slips up my spine to the back of my mind
And is looking for a dark place to rest.
This was such a great place.
I don’t want to forget you.

If they don’t reply to your texts — they’re not interested in you.

If they don’t call you — they’re not interested in you.

If they forget your birthday — they’re not interested in you.

If they’re hung up on their ex — they’re not interested in you.

If they’re obsessed with being single — they’re not interested in you.

If they don’t want to meet your friends — they’re not interested in you.

If they don’t want you to meet their friends — they’re not interested in you.

If they don’t ask questions about your life — they’re not interested in you.

If they don’t tell you things about their life — they’re not interested in you.

If they only speak to you when they want to have sex with you — they’re not interested in you.

If they only have sex with you when they’re drunk — they’re not interested in you.

If they say “should we just keep this between us?’ after you have sex with them — they’re not interested in you.

If they don’t have sex with you — they’re not interested in you.

If they can always find a psychobabble rationale about who “I am” or “you are” or “we are” as reason why you can’t be together — they’re not interested in you.

If they have said for more than six months that they would like to be with you “BUT” — they’re not interested in you.

And if you still need convincing — think of it this way. Think of what the real day-to-day of life is taken up by. Life is birthday parties at terrible pubs. Life is losing your credit card and the annual Melbourne Cup sweepstake in the office. Life is hen’s nights, bucks’ nights, sitting on the phone for three hours to get U2 tickets and not getting them, the apartment upstairs flooding your house, interval training, calorie counting, cancer scares, illegal mini cabs, Secret Santa, rail replacement buses and Dido albums. Dogs die, cars crash, bin liners break, contracts end, curtain rails collapse, trains get delayed, football teams lose. Divorce happens and so do earthquakes and so does An Audience With Michael Bublé. Landlords put rent up, phones get stolen and the supermarket often completely runs out of hummus.

Now, taking all of the above into account — you look me dead in the eye and tell me the truth. Do you really have enough spare energy to pursue someone who isn’t interested in you? Do you really want to waste any more time on top of all of that? No. Me neither. So give it up, my friend. It’s a loser’s game. Delete their number. Don’t go on any more dates with them. Stop lurking their Facebook page. Feels good, doesn’t it?


Dolly Alderton (via pushtheheart)
turbinis:

000025 by Alksnyte on Flickr.

turbinis:

000025 by Alksnyte on Flickr.

Big Yellow Taxi
Joni Mitchell

They paved paradise and put up a parking lot
With a pink hotel, a boutique and a swinging hot spot
Don’t it always seem to go
That you don’t know what you’ve got till it’s gone
They paved paradise and put up a parking lot

They took all the trees and put them in a tree museum
And they charged all the people a dollar and a half to see ‘em
Don’t it always seem to go
That you don’t know what you’ve got till it’s gone
They paved paradise and they put up a parking lot

Hey farmer farmer put away that D.D.T. now
Give me spots on my apples but leave me the birds and the bees
Please
Don’t it always seem to go
That you don’t know what you’ve got till it’s gone
They paved paradise and put up a parking lot

If Love Is A Red Dress
Maria McKee
Sweatpants
Childish Gambino

Don’t be mad cause I’m doing me better than you doing you 

Better than you doing you, fuck it, what you gon’ do?

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BREAKING: DISNEYLAND NO LONGER HAPPIEST PLACE ON EARTH

Dog society is incredible

“There are random moments - tossing a salad, coming up the driveway to the house, ironing the seams flat on a quilt square, standing at the kitchen window and looking out at the delphiniums, hearing a burst of laughter from one of my children’s rooms - when I feel a wavelike rush of joy. This is my true religion: arbitrary moments of of nearly painful happiness for a life I feel privileged to lead.”

—Elizabeth Berg, The Art of Mending (via observando)

self portratis by paul zizka in banff national park (see also: victor liu and previous posts of the aurora and milky way)

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